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Eid Mubarak 2020

Today, in Malaysia, Muslims are celebrating the Eid, which marks the end of the Ramadan month. The day that starts the meeting of relatives from far and family members, old friends and colleagues.

However, due to the new norm set for Covid 19 crisis, that has affected Malaysia as well, the celebration of Eid is done with limitations.
Today, we are free to travel to visit our families living near us. Intrastate travel is allowed today for Eid celebration. Everyone should adhere to the new norms such as the use of face cover,  maintain a distance of 1 meter from each other, wash hands often. No shaking hands, no kissing, no touching, no close conversation allowed. Preferably to take care of our elders and children as they seem more vulnerable to the Covid 19. 
All interstate travel are forbidden, unless you have reasons and it is a must trip. Today, we visited my father and mother in law, which is around 5 km away.  From my observation, small visits may be safe. However, if you have chil…

Sorting Out Self-Esteem



Book Summary



Sorting Out Self-Esteem - Grant Brecht


Self-esteem is all about liking ourselves, warts and all.

If we choose to focus on what we can`t do in like and what we don’t have of course we will demotivate ourselves, our self-esteem and self-confidence will take a real dive. However, if we choose to focus instead on what we can do, and what we have done in life and build on that, our self-esteem is likely to take a positive surge forward or at a least maintain a healthy level.

Self-esteem is something we develop as we travel the journey of life.

A healthy level of self-esteem is one of the greatest gifts we can give to our children or model for other people.

Beware the Victim Trap and low self-esteem cycle.

Self-esteem - Where does it come from?
  • ·         Parents;
  • ·         Peers;
  • ·         Achievements;
  • ·         Ourselves.
Phrase that may affect your self-esteem in a very negative way are:

  • ·         Inflexible – I will never get it right
  • ·         Irrational – I should not make mistakes.
  • ·         Negative – I am really so hopeless
  • ·         Stressful – I can`t stand it
  • ·         Distorted – it`s a catastrophe.
  • ·         Upsetting – I`m an idiot alright


Phrase that may affect your self-esteem in a positive way are:

  • ·         Flexible – everyone make mistakes
  • ·         Adaptable – what can I learn from all this?
  • ·         Rational – it`s not the end of world
  • ·         Positive – I did everything else pretty well
  • ·         Solution-orientated – what`s the best thing for me to do now?


Practice is a vital element.

We need to be assertive, not passive or aggressive with our behavior.

Proper problem-solving and goal settings leads to more and more achievements, so:


1.       Define the problem
2.       Consider all solutions
3.       Evaluate all solutions
4.       Select a solution
5.       Plan your attack
6.       Try and test your plan.

Low self-esteem leads to: poor self-image, depression, lack of achievement, the “poor me” trap, life wastage.

Develop tolerance and patience
Be self-motivating- catch your self being well.

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